Blog Every Day in May: Day 6

Day 6, Monday: If you couldn't answer with your job,
how would you answer the question, "What do you do"?

Ah, this is a FANTASTIC question because I've been guilty of wrapping my identity in my career. I used to think that if I was unable to answer the question "What do you do for living?" with anything other than a sexy, glamorous job title, I was totally uncool and had somehow failed. As you can imagine, this put a lot of unnecessary stress on my shoulders and resulted in frantic job hopping since I believed I had to be irrevocably happy and settled in whatever position I had (which is absolutely absurd for someone who was barely out of college).

I learned the very hard way that the perfect job does NOT exist. You can have good jobs and you can certainly have great jobs, but perfect? No way. 

I'm in my current position in Human Resources because I had to escape a toxic work situation last year. While that particular job was much more in-line with my career goals (I was a publicist), the poor work environment made the actual work unbearable and I took the first position offered to me in order to preserve my mental health. 

I like my current job, but it has absolutely nothing to do with what I want for myself. It will do for now because I'm anxious to see what doors it can open for me within the college, but sometimes I feel embarrassed that I took a seemingly large step backwards. I almost cringe when people ask me what I do for a living because it feels so wildly off-base from where I thought I should be by now. 

I mean, you spend 40 hours of your week in your place of employment. That's such a large chunk of time, It's kind of hard NOT to let that role define you. But I've had several conversations with Clay about jobs and we agree that, while potentially enriching and fulfilling, work is simply a means to an end. Sure, you spend a LOT of hours with the same people each week, but that's not your whole life. It's just a part of it. What you do after 5 p.m. and on the weekends is what truly defines you. 

That being said, if I had to answer the question "What do you do?" without answering, "I work in Human Resources", I would say this:

I am a wife. I am a softball player and a runner. I am a writer. I am an avid animal lover. I am an amateur baker and a wannabe chef. I'm a voracious reader.

When it comes to "what I do", I love my husband. Being a wife is the most important role and biggest blessing in my life. Each day I look for new ways to love Clayton and give him what he needs. I pray for him. I nurture his talents and encourage his ambition. 

I run. I play softball. I like to keep my body active. Taking care of your physical well-being is a daily job as it is fun and challenging. I love the frustration that comes with trying to become a faster runner. I'm addicted to the energy and excitement of a big race. I thrive on the feeling of a ball landing in my glove and the sound of my bat connecting with a ball.

I write. I write this blog and I look for other avenues to work on my craft. I want to one day be able to answer the question, "What do you do?" with "I write professionally."

I am an avid animal lover. I spend a lot of time with my dog and any other furry little creature that crosses my path. I get overly excited when I see a canine and I fawn over my beagle's paws as part of my nightly ritual. 

I spend a lot of time in the kitchen. I love experimenting with new recipes. I love making cakes and frosting. I have a very awkward, very human love for my Kitchen Aid mixer. I try to cook a new recipe every week and bake something sweet every weekend. I want to be the mom that makes the world's best chocolate chip cookies.

I read in my free time. I carry a constant balance on my library card because I am incapable of returning items on time. I sit in my room and read for hours because I feel like I can't do anything else until I know how the story ends. I go to Book Club and spend time with other obsessive readers and share ideas and thoughts about the pages we read. I feed my love of English and grammar and literature by getting lost in books. 

So to answer your question, I do ... a lot. :)


  1. HAHA - I ALWAYS owe something to the library every time I check out a book. It's to the point where I get nervous to go there because I know they will tell me I owe a couple bucks for not returning a book. Gets me every time!


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