Blog Every Day in May, Day 16: my lot in life

Day 16, Thursday: Something difficult about your "lot in life"
and how you're working to overcome it.

My response to today's writing prompt may not be a popular one, but I was never popular in school. So it makes sense.

When I saw that the Blog Every Day in May participants were tasked with writing about their "lot in life", I admittedly had the urge to just take the humorous route. I tossed around the idea of writing about how my lot in life is to be devastatingly gorgeous, but I don't want to rub it in or make anyone feel jealous (I kid, I kid).

My initial instinct to be funny about this topic actually stems from my inherent belief that saying you have a "lot in life" is one of the most infuriating, annoying things another human can possibly say. To say "Well, to be/have [insert troublesome thing here] is just my lot in life" is a staggering statement of resignation.

To me, a "lot" implies a burden and accepting something as your "lot" is an excuse for complacency. "Lot in life" is an idiom dripping with self-pity.

The only thing that saves this writing prompt is the instruction to discuss how you're working to overcome your supposed "lot in life". However, that sentence is confusing. Why would you work to overcome something that you're complacent with?

Like any other red-blooded human out there, I've been dealt a few bad cards in my life. I'm the child of divorce, I'm been verbally and emotionally abused by a loved one, and I experienced a very tumultuous, broken adolescence and young adulthood. Are those my lots in life? Are those my burdens? Are those my excuses to be emotionally dormant and harbor bitterness or anger? 

I don't see it that way.

I feel like a pretty resilient little creature. If I get knocked down, be rest assured I'll be all Chumbawamba about it and get up again.

But I won't be pissing the night away because even 16 years later, I'm still not entirely sure what that means.

Bad things should never ever define us. They're circumstantial; they will pass. What matters is how you rise above the challenges and how you let it effect your heart.


  1. "Pissing the night away" is essentially "getting drunk," if you're in the UK. :)


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